I don’t often check my mail box, because it seems like no one sends mail anymore.
Today I was walking through the mail room, and I decided to check my mailbox. Now, I share my mailbox with another student who either doesn’t go here anymore or never checks for mail. So ever since I got here, there have been the same letters in the mailbox. I always get excited when I open the door and see envelopes, then I realize that they aren’t addressed to me.
But today was different. I opened the door and saw the usual envelopes, but tucked in beside them was a letter for me!
Receiving this letter was a piece of evidence that somewhere out there, there is a person who cares enough about me to write a letter, print pictures, find my address, buy stamps, and mail it.
A letter says “I care about you, I have things to tell you, I was thinking about you and wanted to put it down in words.”
Text messages, phone calls and emails are the main ways we communicate right now. They are convenient, cheap and sometimes even free. There is nothing wrong with them, but think about why you text people. Is it because you need something from them?
I would be interested to know what the percentage is of text messages and emails that are sent for the purpose of asking a question that needs to be answered quickly. I am guessing a lot.
Now, I consider myself a pretty relational person, but if the only reason I communicate with people is to ask them something; then something has gone very wrong.
I am a letter hypocrite.
I love letters. I think that writing someone a letter is meaningful, personal, and it brightens their day. But do I write letters? No. A couple of days ago I made my Mom a birthday card and sent it in the mail. I had to walk all the way across campus to mail it and the stamps I had weren’t current so I had to put two stamps on the envelope so there was sufficient payment for posting. It wasn’t even a letter. It was a card with six sentences of text. This is the first thing I have mailed in months.
I think letter writing is an endangered species of communication but I am not doing anything to change it.
We all open our mailboxes hoping for a letter… not realizing that someone needs to get the ball rolling.
I text, I call, I skype, I email, I facetime, I post on facebook, I tweet, I tumble(?); yet I don’t put pen to paper and write letters.
So why don’t we write letters? In comparison to writing emails on our cell phones while we are in line at Starbucks, it seems a little inefficient to write a letter and then have to drive somewhere to mail it. Who doesn’t love multi tasking? I mean, why do one thing at a time when you can do three?
Something worth thinking about: what are we sacrificing when we put efficiency and convenience first? (I might answer this another day)
*Now, I can’t title this post “You’ve Got Mail” without mentioning the movie with the same title. It is one of my all time favourite movies and if you have not seen it you are missing out!
As a side note, I think it is ironic that the movie is called “You’ve Got Mail”, but the whole movie is about email.
This is a dialogue between Joe Fox, his Father (Nelson), and his Grandfather (Schuyler).
SCHUYLER: Cecilia Kelly, lovely woman. I think we might have had a date once. Or maybe we just exchanged letters.
JOE: You wrote her letters?
SCHUYLER: Mail. It was called mail.
NELSON: (fondly nostalgic) Stamps. Envelopes.
JOE: You know, I think I’ve heard of it. It was a means of communication before I was born.
NELSON: Exactly.
SCHUYLER: Cecilia had beautiful penmanship.
It is so lovely, so romantic that he said that. “She had beautiful penmanship.” No one would say that anymore, because no one writes letters.
Now, I think that we can all agree that when you receive a letter from a friend, it makes you feel loved. Important. Worth the time it took them to walk to mail the letter.
So in light of this, let’s bring snail mail back!
P.S. a shout out to Laura McGill who sent the letter than inspired this post. Laura, it brightened my day and made me feel loved. Thank you.